sex toys

I’m interested in purchasing my first sex toy(s), but there are so many options! Where and how should I get started?

LM: Great question! When you first start looking at sex toys, the variety can be overwhelming. There are sex toys out there for pretty much every conceivable purpose, so one starting point might be thinking about what you (and/or your partner(s)) are looking for in your sex toys. Do you want a penetrative toy? A vibrating toy? Something that is made for two people to use at once? (Also, remember that how a sex toy is advertised isn’t necessarily the only way you can use it—feel free to be creative!)

AA: It’s great to begin thinking about these different questions before you decide to buy one (or more) particular toys. If you decide that you’d like to use a toy with a partner(s) it can be good to involve them early on in the conversation regarding which is the best toy for you to purchase. This will depend on how it might be used, what are both of your wants, needs, and non-negotiables and where those overlap for you both or where they do not overlap. Finding the answers will help determine which is the best to for you (and/or your partner(s)).

LM: Once you have an idea of what general type of toy(s) you’re interested in purchasing, the next step is to narrow it down to a specific product. A couple of factors may come into play at this point: price, quality, material, aesthetic, and color are just a few things you may want to consider. You can get high-quality sex toys at a range of price points, but it’s important to remember that with sex toys, in some cases low price may mean low quality, which can sometimes be unsafe. For instance, some toys on the lower end of the price range may be made of porous materials, which can harbor bacteria even after washing. However, if you’re not ready to spring for a slightly higher-end sex toy, it is possible to use condoms on your sex toys.

AA: Sex toys can come in many materials including silicone, plastic, metal, glass, rubber, and others. It’s important to think about these materials when deciding which to buy. In addition, a great option to add to a sex toy is lube! It can enhance the experience and pleasure for you and/or your partner(s). The type of lube you’ll want to use depends on the material of your sex toy: If you decide to purchase a silicone sex toy it is not recommended to use silicone lubricant as this type of lubricant can break down degrade your silicone sex toy. If you are using condoms on any sex toy it is important to make sure not to use oil-based lube as this type of lubricant will degrade the latex condom.

LM: This can be a lot to keep in your mind as you’re making your purchase. It can sometimes be helpful to go to an actual store when shopping for sex toys, where the employees will be able to help you balance all of these factors when you’re choosing your sex toys. We highly recommend Good Vibrations, a store with locations in Harvard Square and Brookline; the employees are friendly and highly knowledgeable (they’ve gone through a comprehensive training). If you’d rather not go to a physical store, you can also order from Good Vibrations online. Another great thing about Good Vibrations is that they explicitly do not gender their products and are inclusive of all identities. There are also many other places to order sex toys on the internet, including Amazon; whatever you choose, make sure to read the reviews and do your research about materials and safety.

AA: Once you’ve purchased your sex toy, have fun trying it out and getting familiar with it. If you are choosing to use the toy with a partner(s) make sure to talk with them about use before you jump into the experience. It’s always important to continually check in with your partner(s) while using your sex toy even if it’s not both of your first times using this toy. Communication is key to ensure you and your partner(s) are both continually enjoying your fun-sexy-play-time. Again as we have mentioned there are many choices to make when purchasing a sex toy. If the first toy you purchase is not working out for you it may take time and trial and error to find the right toy for you and/or your partner(s).